From Phone Behavior to Attitude Shifts, Here’s What to Watch For
Suspecting your partner of cheating can be one of the most gut-wrenching experiences in a relationship. While trust is the foundation of any partnership, certain behavioral changes might hint at infidelity. Darren Stanton, a former detective and body language expert, has revealed five subtle red flags that could indicate your partner is being unfaithful.
1. Sudden Changes in Phone Behavior
One of the most common signs of cheating is a shift in how your partner interacts with their phone. If they’ve suddenly changed their passcode, started taking their phone everywhere (even to the bathroom), or become defensive when you ask to use it, these could be red flags.
“A partner who’s hiding something may guard their phone more closely than usual,” Stanton explains. “They might also avoid leaving it unattended or quickly close apps when you walk into the room.”
2. Emotional Withdrawal or Avoidance
If your partner seems less interested in spending time with you or sharing details about their day, it could be a sign of emotional detachment. Cheaters often pull away to create distance, making it easier to hide their actions.
“When someone is cheating, they may avoid conversations about their day or seem disengaged when you’re together,” Stanton says. “This emotional withdrawal can be a coping mechanism to deal with the guilt of infidelity.”
3. Changes in Sex Drive
A sudden shift in your partner’s sexual behavior can also be a telltale sign. Whether they’ve lost interest in intimacy or become unusually adventurous, both extremes can indicate cheating.
“Cheaters may have less sex at home because they’re getting it elsewhere,” Stanton notes. “On the flip side, some may overcompensate by initiating more intimacy to mask their guilt.”
4. Increased Negativity or Criticism
If your partner has started picking fights or criticizing you out of nowhere, it could be a sign of internal stress related to cheating.
“The guilt of infidelity often manifests as frustration or anger,” Stanton explains. “They might project their feelings onto you, making you feel like the problem in the relationship.”
5. Unexplained Changes in Routine
A partner who’s cheating may suddenly have new hobbies, work late more often, or make frequent excuses for being unavailable.
“Changes in routine, especially if they’re unexplained or inconsistent, can be a red flag,” Stanton warns. “Pay attention to patterns that don’t add up or seem out of character.”
What to Do If You Notice These Signs
While these behaviors can be indicators of cheating, they don’t always mean your partner is being unfaithful. Communication is key—if you’re concerned, have an open and honest conversation with your partner.
“It’s important not to jump to conclusions,” Stanton advises. “But if you notice multiple red flags, it’s worth addressing your concerns in a calm and constructive way.”
